How to Treat Yourself as Someone You Love
When someone close to you is struggling, having difficulty coping, or not taking care of themselves, how do you reach out to them?
Kelly Wilson first introduced me to the idea of ‘treating yourself like someone you love’ in a pre-conference workshop. It was 2013, at the Association for Contextual Behavioural Sciences (ACBS) World Conference in Sydney. He explained that he regularly “takes Kelly to Yoga, as he knows it is something he enjoys and will make him feel better later on”.
So my first question to you is,
How would you help someone that you love?
Would you cook them a healthy meal?
Take them with you to an exercise, relaxation or meditation class?
Invite them for a walk somewhere beautiful and serene?
Would you lend (or give) them a book that inspired, helped or distracted you?
Buy them a gift, like a beautiful bunch of flowers?
So, if you are the one who is having a difficult time, what nice things could you do for yourself? To treat yourself as someone you love?
Think about the kind, loving things you do for your friends when they are struggling and remember that you as much as anyone deserve your love and compassion.
These are the things that Sophie likes, and that help her to feel better
All of these are ways I care for myself mind, body and spirit/soul.
An old friend, when I mentioned the Queen Time I had just begun, told me
"the relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you'll have in your life and the one that requires the most attention and dedicated time to work on"
In his opinion. How right he is.
James Altucher, in his excellent book "Choose Yourself" (only AUS$1.30 in the Kindle store) talks about the daily practice of taking care of all the bodies that make up you, the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual bodies. He explains that with this daily practice of care he finds himself to be creative, healthy, inspired, balanced and able to perform at his best in all areas of his life.
I too, have been undertaking this daily practice since reading his book, knowing that my "mental body" was the one I needed to focus on. With this practice I have found that my creativity and inspiration has been at an all time high. I feel I am becoming an idea machine as I read and work my way through, his wife Claudia's book "How to become an idea machine".
They're such an inspired, generous couple and I love what they're putting out there. These books have helped me greatly to improve on my self-care and to remember, when it slips my mind, or day-to-day life concerns get in the way, to treat myself as I would someone that I love.
What ways do you need to choose yourself?
What ways can you find to treat yourself like someone you love?
What things can you do right now, and today, that will help you to feel, and be better tomorrow?
Because I have found (as have many that I know) that the more you put into your relationship with yourself, the greater the quality of your life becomes.
This is achieved through:
You can treat yourself as someone you love by beginning to practice self care every day in ways that honour and nourish who you are.
Ask yourself what do I need from myself in this moment?
How is your self care? (need some extra help/inspiration?)
There are many great resources for you to assess your current self care practices and help you to begin or improve them in our Resource Library.
Here's to you being Happy, Well and Fed (delicious, healthy, inspiring whole foods)
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Have you seen our other posts in the Self Care section? Check them out..